The truth is that I've been wanting to change my everyday habits very badly.
The "pit" areas, as I'd like to refer to them for me are:
-Getting up early
-Reading my Bible
-Crap Mornings where I let my kid watch too much tv
-Running my house well
-Keeping things cleaned and organized
-Meal planning, blah-dee-blah-blah
Yes. We all struggle with these things. Especially as tired stay at home moms where there is no end to our days.
Go back to a couple of weeks ago with me. My house was a complete mess (chaos better describes it). All I've been wanting was time to myself. Time to do whatever I please.
That's not bad, but it's been a bad cycle for me where that's all I've been seeking out, continually. I felt like each and every day was a blur. Wake up late. Send husband out the door, some days without a lunch. Let Cai watch TV while I read blogs/waste time on the computer to "wake up". Eat breakfast late. Unsure about what to do in the morning with Cai. Realize I've put Cai down for an afternoon nap and I'm sill in my pajamas. I blink and it's dinner time and I don't know what's for dinner, and on an on. Same thing. Every day.
Add on top of that, pretty much each and every time I felt like I needed a break, I was sitting down at my computer. Over and over again, any short chance I got, trying to "take a break."
I was living at my lowest. Doing the minimal. Just barely enough to pass through each day and wondering how I was supposed to accomplish "all this".
A couple weeks ago, I was just plain bored with my mommy role and severely overwhelmed with my tasks at hand. I was so tired of doing the same crap over and over. One particular day, all I felt that I had to do was "buy toilet paper and take a book to the library."
It just felt so mundane. I'd lost sight of what was important.
The good thing about living in a tunnel, dark and black...
God's word never comes back void. We should read it, when it is hard.
My first babystep, personally has been to read my Bible more, so that I can love God more. I can't say I do it daily, but SheReadsTruth helps me so much to stay consistent. I've been in Colossians this month in my reading plan. These truths have been transforming me!
"Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly,...with thankfulness in your hearts" Colossians 3:16
"And whatever you do, in word, or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him." col. v.17
"Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ." Col. 3:23
And from Proverbs 31. (I encourage you to read this whole chapter to see this wise woman's ways!)
"She looks well to the ways of her household and does NOT eat the bread of idleness." v.27
Whoa!!!! Stop right there. While I definitely know God pours out his grace on me and I have amazing freedom in that, I also know that I have some responsibilities as a Christian that go further than how I've allowed myself to live in my flesh. Something had to be done. I needed more change.
(Insert Husband taking me to lunch on my lowest day and telling me about how he happened to have seen one friend we know mention FlyLady on her Facebook. Maybe if I had someone to encourage me daily to get some things done around the house, then I would feel more excited to do them naturally). It sounded like a better plan than how I'd been operating, maybe it was worth a try.
So I checked out this website and this wonderful older woman encouraging other woman, especially stay at home moms living in Chaos to slowly change their ways at home for the better by establishing baby step routines each day. I was hooked! I love following plans. I love accountability. I love a clean house. And I love changing!!!
I've become a Flybaby.
Two things have radically changed me and my household already.
1)Shine my sink every day (Going on 8 days strong now! Look at that clean, happy, smiling sink!)
- Each day, after shining my sink, I've been keeping it clean. I don't go to bed with dishes in my sink. Every day, I have made this a priority. It has truly made the biggest difference in my home. It's a place that I've taken pride in... MY KITCHEN... COME SEE!
- Somewhere along the way I stopped getting dressed and lived in pjs during the day. I treated every day like Saturday, a lazy day. If and when I got dressed it was mainly in work out clothes and a t-shirt. For the last week, I've changed that. I've gotten up, not necessarily early yet, but I've gotten up, and gotten dressed in normal clothes. I've put on some earrings, put on my make-up, and fixed my hair somewhat each day. It's amazing how much your day transforms when you actually get dressed (TO SHOES!) It's true... I even put shoes on. In my house! The first 3 days I did SO much more than before, that I was HURTING by the time I got back in bed that night, because wearing shoes made me do so much more around the house. No lie. You should try it.
I have never been so proud of my kitchen EVER!
Even my husband is following our new "sink rules" and we love to yell "RULE BREAKER!" at each other if we "mess up".
Too often, I've seen mommy bloggers pour themselves into their blogs, but then admit how off track they've become in their own homes and with their families. I never want that to happen to me.
My family is my top priority outside of Christ. I want to take care of them well. Add on top of that that God shows us in his word an awesome godly woman that doesn't lazy herself through each day, but looks well to the ways of her home, and I've realized that I don't want to live any other way.
As a sewist, I do put my home on hold at times so that I can have time to sew, but what I'm now realizing is that if I build into my day certain daily habits (which FlyLady is helping me form), then I actually have MORE time to get the fun things done. If I keep up with the small things each day, then there are huge chunks of time where I can devote to my growing sewing passion. And by doing these small things each day, I'm actually loving my family MORE and I'm putting them first.
While I love the honesty of other mom bloggers that reveal that their homes are complete wrecks, I actually don't want mine to be like that. I want the best of both worlds. I want to sew and have time for that and I want to have a clean, well maintained house. I want to look put together each day. I want to be efficient. And most of all, I want to make time for Jesus.
Maybe I lost you much earlier in this post, but I just wanted to share these accomplishments with you, because sometimes seeing others progress, can help push us into the right gears, too. If you want me to pray for you in these areas, too, please leave me a comment and I will add you to a list to pray for you daily! Let's hold each other accountable!
Become a FlyBaby with me!!! But let God pour his grace upon you when you realize where you are at!
Love in Christ,